Everyday stuff I don’t need to think about
Sometimes when I read femenist posts on tumblr I kind of feel unfamiliar with the subject. I feel like I’m really privileged and I guess I am.
The other day I was out for a walk with the dogs and having a good day (feelt happy, good-looking and confident). So the first guy I came across kind of looked at me, like checking me out, and since I live in Sweden there is a huge everyday rule that you shouldn’t make eye contact with people. So I took it as a compliment that I actually cought him looking at me (more than once, otherwise I would have brushed it of). Later during the same walk I came a cross some middle age men that stared at me, they did look away for a moment when I did stare back. This time since it wasn’t smooth I didn’t feel so good about it but I was in such a good mood I didn’t let it bother me too much. Not far away from the old dudes sat a gang of young guys who did star and didn’t stop when I did stare back. I was so taken by suprise I couln’t hear what they did call out to me. Afterward I guessed that it was because they where imigrants that they didn’t follow the swedish “non staring” rule and kind of feelt satified with that explaination and thinking it probobly wouldn’t happen again. It wasn’t until today I did realized that this is what othed women go through all the time. How creepy and serious matter it really is, I hade not understand the deept of it before only lightly talked about it.
So don’t shrink problems just because you, yourself haven’t experienced it and to all whom live in countries that have this problem. Look at my little story and learn from it, learn that it doesn’t have to be that
True gender equality is actually perceived as inequality. A group that is made up of 50% women is perceived as being mostly women. A situation that is perfectly equal between men and women is perceived as being biased in favor of women.
And if you don’t believe me, you’ve never been a married woman who kept her family name. I have had students hold that up as proof of my “sexism.”
My own brother told me that he could never marry a woman who kept her name because “everyone would know who ruled that relationship.” Perfect equality – my husband keeps his name and I keep mine – is held as a statement of superiority on my part.
- Lucy, When Worlds Collide: Fandom and Male Privilege. (via feministartdegree)
- This is as weird to me as the artical about giving a baby the mothers last name. (In Sweden it’s always the mothers last name since she did give birth to the child). We kind of choose the last name that sounds coolest like Tillenius instead of Eriksson like everybody els in Sweden
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Sexism is when people laugh at rape jokes and cringe at female anatomy.
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